I became a counselor because I wanted to help others who are hurting and feeling bad about themselves, their relationship and their lives in general, learn how to live their lives with more joy and peace. Due to experiences in my past, I had often felt that I did not have much value and did not deserve to have the life or relationship that I desired. Because of the messages I received growing up, I thought that I had just better “settle” for what I could get, be it a career, a relationship or whatever I really desired. But what I “settled” for, just left me feeling miserable. I ended up in a dysfunctional marriage with the wrong man, and in countless unfulfilling jobs. I had to really look at myself and my life and decide what was not working and needed to change, and that I was worth the time and investment in really discovering myself, why I had such low self-esteem and what I wanted my life to look like. So….. I did the necessary work on myself and made a lot of changes in the way I evaluated myself and the thoughts that I allowed to determine my mood. I learned to really love myself and believe that I am worthy of a happy life just like everyone else! Fast forward to my life today. I am in the career I love as a counselor helping others to feel better about themselves and their lives and am in the marriage of my dreams to a man who loves and supports me. Because of my journey, I know that I can help others who are dealing with low self-esteem, sadness and worry learn to feel better about themselves and live more joyful and peaceful lives. I work with both individuals and couples. My clients have come to the realization that life is not what they want it to be and they are willing to accept help. They are motivated to consider making changes in their lives which often means re-evaluating their lives to determine what is not working for them and how they want their life to be different. My clients are often dealing with one or more of these issues: • Relationship problems – they are in a relationship that is not working for them. Generally this means they are either experiencing frequent disagreements with a spouse or other family member or have grown distant, where they are having trouble even knowing how to talk to each other. • Past trauma – this can mean a number of past experiences which are continuing to impact the client today. It may be childhood physical, emotional or sexual abuse, a traumatic end to a relationship or another significant event in their past. • Stress – a large percentage of my clients are feeling “stressed out.” They are feeling a great deal of pressure and struggling to meet the demands of a fast-paced life full of never-ending responsibilities and multiple stressors. • Anxiety – these clients are overwhelmed by worry, they worry about most anything and everything and find it difficult to control their worrying. Clients with anxiety often find it hard to relax and may have physical problems such as stomach issues. • Depression – my clients with depression are feeling unhappy with themselves and their lives. They frequently have lost interest in things that they used to find enjoyable. Many times my clients with depression are often experiencing relationship problems also. • Grief – the most common thing that people think about with grief is dealing with the death of a loved one but people can be grieving the loss of a relationship, a career or other major loss. • Low Self-Esteem – these client just feel badly about who they are and often compare themselves to others and feel they come up lacking. They tend to be “people pleasers” and have little confidence. My clients are intelligent, good people. They’ve made several attempts, on their own, at making a change but have not been able to obtain permanent change. This leads them to doubt themselves even more and cause a downward spiral and low self-esteem. They are feeling bad about themselves or the way life has turned out for them. They often are dealing with issues from the past that they have never resolved and KNOW they need someone to come along beside them and walk them through the changes they’re ready to make. They are ready to do “whatever it takes” to turn things around and be the person that deep down they know they can be. When people initially call me, it is usually following a particular event that has happened. Maybe it was a particularly nasty fight with their spouse or they are feeling so depressed that they are not able to engage in life the way they used to. This will be our starting point but I will do an assessment, dig deeper and generally other issues will be revealed. Together we will set a goal and then start the process of moving towards that goal. Unfortunately I do not have a magic wand and it will take time, commitment and sometimes exploring areas of the past that were unpleasant. I often assign homework which will assist you in making the changes that are necessary in order to obtain your goal. What’s unique about me is that I have a very “soft touch” with my clients. I know that they are often dealing with some very unpleasant and difficult things and I want them to know that I am on their side, and will never judge or shame them. Clients often tell me that I am “easy to talk to” and that they “don’t feel judged” by me. Compassion and care are what personifies my practice. I work best with people are ready to really look at their situation (and sometimes their painful past history), be honest with themselves and be willing to follow my recommendations and utilize the tools I present to them. My personality is kind, caring, respectful, honest and I place a high value on integrity; so I work best with those who have the same attributes. My expectations are that you take our time together as seriously as I do. If I assign homework, it is intentional, purposeful and instrumental in helping you to implement the changes you would like to see in your life. If you want things to be different, you have to do different things! Please know I am very selective about who I work with. Your success is my utmost concern. I make sure new clients and I are a good fit for one another. It’s not fair for us to decide to work together if you’re not able to get the most out of it. As I stated earlier, if you are wanting to simply sit on my couch and complain about your life or your partner for fifty minutes, it would not be worth your time or money to work with me. I work best with those who are ready to really take a look at themselves and their life to determine what needs to change and are motivated to “do the work” that is necessary in order to bring those changes to fruition. If I don’t think our working together is going to be the best option for you, I will gently point this out and give you a referral to one of several other professional counselors I know and trust. I know some people may be skeptical about counseling- according to the research on counseling and neuroplasticity (the ability of the brain to change), the brain of the client actually changes after just one counseling session! Research has also proven that counseling is just as effective as prescription medication for the treatment of depression, without the negative side effects! Please check out my website testimonials from some of my past clients regarding their success in counseling. Things you can expect to address in counseling: • Silence that “inner critic” – you know what I’m talking about, that voice in your head always telling you you’re not good enough, you don’t deserve good things or you’re a failure etc. Clients frequently tell me that they were not aware of how often this voice judges them and affects their mood and behavior. Once they learn how to put a stop to their “inner critic’s” constant commentary, they felt more positive and confident about themselves. • Stop comparing yourself and your life to others – many of my clients spend a lot of time and energy trying to “keep up with the Jones’s. They feel that life is a series of competitions to be the “best” parent, employee, spouse etc. This pressure can often be overwhelming for them. How priceless would it be for you to feel confident that you are perfect just the way you are, regardless of how you “measure up” to others? • Prioritize your life –my clients often state that they did not realize how much time and energy they were wasting on activities that were not important to them and cut into valuable time they could have been doing things that bring them more happiness. Wouldn’t you value knowing what’s truly most important to you and the ability to spend more of your time in those areas? • Have happier and more satisfying relationships with your loved ones – clients say they really appreciate having the tools to improve communication and the ability to discuss things without negative emotions taking over and things getting out of control! They also enjoy feeling emotionally closer to their partner and not feeling like roommates. • Feel less stressed – My clients are often dealing with a great deal of stress and say that they are so grateful that they can lower their stress levels. What would your life be like to feel a sense of calmness and peacefulness? • Learn to stand up for yourself – My clients say that they never realized how much of a “people pleaser” they were. They have learned to be more confident and assertive with people and know that it’s okay to say “no”, yes even to your loved ones! • Learn how to take care of yourself – My clients frequently say they used to feel exhausted trying to take care of “everything for everyone” but have learned how important it is to make sure you are meeting your own needs too. Unless you take care of yourself, you will not have the energy to take care of others. As the flight attendants say on the airplane “put your own oxygen mask on first!” • Explore your spiritual life –what does it mean to you and how are you incorporating it into your daily life? • Learn to be your “authentic self” – this means being the person you were born to be and feeling comfortable in your own skin. My clients say they have a better awareness of who they are and are more content with themselves. • Let go of perfectionism –Many of my clients’ state that they are so much happier once they dropped this unattainable goal and learned to just concentrate on doing their best and being proud of their attempts not just their successes. As the author Leo Tolstoy said “If you look for perfection, you'll never be content.” • Learn the practice of mindfulness this means learning to live in the moment and not worry about what happened in the past or what “may” happen in the future. My clients are always amazed at how this practice has positively affected their lives, especially on decreasing the worry they were experiencing. People often ask me how many sessions will I need. Although each person is different and comes with different issues. It often depends on how you are incorporating the things we talk about into your life and if you are diligent about doing your homework. I often asked how counseling is different than talking to friends or family members. Although talking with the important people in your life can be helpful, they are not able to be objective in helping you and have usually not had any formal training in counseling. I have been professionally trained, licensed by the state of Indiana and extensive experience in helping others who have dealt with similar issues. Some clients tell me they feel guilty about spending the money on themselves. How much is it worth to you to wake up every morning feeling: • More relaxed and less anxious • More happy and less depressed • More calm and less stressed • A sense of purpose and less confused • Satisfying relationships with more intimacy and less conflict You know that stress, depression and anxiety are negatively affecting you both emotionally and physically. Relationships problems can consume and overwhelm you to the point of neglecting other people and aspects of your life. You know you have been thinking about talking to someone for a while now. Make today the day you make the call that could change your life for the better! You don’t have to deal with your issues alone anymore, together we can work through them, learn new ways of thinking, relating to others and living a more satisfying and peaceful life! You’re worth it! Call Me Today at (317) 732-8761! I can’t wait to hear from you and start you on the path to a happier, calmer and more fulfilling life!
Kimberly Metro Counseling
Mental Health Counseling
I wish I made the decision to seek help from Kimberly years ago. Its better late than never. I would highly recommend her to anyone. She is compassionate, professional, and has always made me feel comfortable. She has improved my life and my relationships more than words can say. I will always be grateful to her.
- Avon Indiana. 8/11/2019
Kimberly has changed my life! My wife and I met with her while we were going through some tough times. We spilled our guts to her, it wasn’t easy, but we did it.
I have since met with her several times to deal with depression and alcohol issues. We talked, then came the miracle treatment. She had a “brain spotting” session with me and with one session, my life has changed so much. Brainspotting WORKS!!
Kimberly is so caring and professional. I always look forward to meeting with her. She knows how to make you feel comfortable, and she is not afraid to ask tough questions.
If you are having marital problems, depression and/or alcohol abuse issues. I am HIGHLY RECOMMENDING that you make an appointment and get your problems resolved.
Thank You sooo much for getting my marriage and life back on track!!
- Brownsburg Indiana. 4/9/2019
Kimberly is responsive, accessible, skilled, and compassionate. She utilized the brain spotting technique to address some longstanding issues I'd been dealing with.
- J H. 4/25/2018
I had a great experience with Kimberly. She was a great counselor, easy to make appointments with (including evenings on Fridays!) and takes payments in the office. My only regret is that I didn't start seeing her sooner.